afterspot answered to your post “I’ve been dropping allusions to being in a crappy situation right now…”
can you work in the library? step away from her..have you talked to an RA for help?
sometimes. one of my anxiety problems is needing a ‘safe’ space before I can concentrate. library still has people moving around, and i can’t stay there forever (i might if it were 24 hours)
the mediation was with the head of residence life. i went straight there because my RA is kinda crappy, i didn’t trust her to be a good mediator. and the whole week before that I basically shut her (my roommate) out entirely (i might have blown up on her otherwise). that’s why she came into the meeting that way, she thought i “hated her”.
captainjackrackham answered to your post “I’ve been dropping allusions to being in a crappy situation right now…”
Flip your desk around and create a little nook for you to be in. She won’t be able to look over your shoulder without a lot of effort.
I can’t. The room is like an L-shape…her half is the ‘leg’ of the L, that whole side. My side is basically all on the other wall, in a straight line.
I’ve been putting my laptop on my bed, but it’s hard to do any actual work in bed.
I’ve been dropping allusions to being in a crappy situation right now and I just need to talk about it some.
So my roommate is essentially seven years old and doesn’t think about how anything she does affects other people. She expects everyone else to completely cater to her interests (which are actually kinda super racist and objectifying) and just gives other people’s stuff lip service, or enough to get them to like her. Obviously she pulled me in enough to agree to live with her, but I’m too nice and assume the best in people. I’m growing out of that.
I took her to mediation last week (had to get the grown ups involved to make an impression) and she did some of the stuff we came up with but I don’t think she understands why she should do them- just to keep me from freaking out on her again, maybe. (She came into that meeting acting like I had literally attacked her. She wouldn’t look at me. I was the one with the complaint and I felt like the bad guy for being composed like an adult.)
Aside from that, I figured out I actually have less space in the room than she does (and more stuff- she lives about three hours away and goes home often and I live ten hours away). I can’t bring my friends to my room because no one wants to be around her. It’s hard for me to do work because I have so little space and also she looks over my shoulder at my stuff (which I asked her not to do, she didn’t listen).
I’m trying to find out if I can move out early. which would suck and i’m not sure she wouldn’t have a total breakdown and decide i’m a meanie pants who hates her, but i’m actually having stress related health problems because of this, and i’m sick of feeling like my life is dominated by her. and i have, have to do well in my classes, and this isn’t helping.
so if anyone has tips for dealing with roommates from hell, send it over?
Film Studies 221B: Costume/Hair/Makeup as Mise en scene
"Do you know the big problem with a disguise, Mr. Holmes? However hard you try, it’s always a self-portrait."
Costuming seems, at one level, so obvious as to not warrant serious consideration. We know that clothes make the person, but in the case of film (or television) they give us critical information about the kinds of people we’re dealing with - even if that information is, ultimately, that we’re dealing with someone quite mysterious and unfathomable. Clothes tell us not only what kind of person we’re looking at, but often what kind of persona that character wants to project; as Irene says, disguises are a self-portrait, often revealing things that sit somewhere below the surface.